Parents have the responsibility to ensure the well-being of their children and many times that means denying them certain things or requests.
As in all things, they cannot be given a YES as an answer to everything they ask for, there is a necessary balance for their healthy growth.
How to say no in a positive way
Logically, we do not want to transmit these NO in a negative and resounding way all the time, so we are going to learn ways to do it in a positive way.
It is about using other alternatives to transmit something positive and not feel frustrated.
1. Propose something else
If our son’s request is to go to an “amusement park” and it does not seem convenient, we can suggest or propose another place. The idea is that he does some activity, such as painting, playing at home, board games, etc.
The key is that you expend your energy and feel happy, even if that means we can’t fulfill that request.
2. We postpone the plan for another day
It is only about explaining that we cannot for certain reasons at that time, but that it can be done at another time. The question is to use the correct words and that he can understand us, at the same time it is very important that we then comply with what we told him, it is the best way for him to trust us.
3. Explain the consequences
It is necessary to explain to him that he will suffer consequences for his actions, for example: if he breaks his brother’s toy or if he fights with him, among other things that could happen. Without a doubt, it is necessary to explain to him that she will NOT receive prizes for his bad behavior, quite the opposite.
You must understand the difference in what is received, when it behaves well and when it does not.
4. It is necessary to clarify the rules in the home
It is essential not to wait for things to happen, it is suggested to explain and clarify the rules at home without having to wait for an event (fights, discord or anger) to create the right moment.
That is, they must know that they will not consume “junk food”, watch too much television or make excessive use of any device, etc. These are rules, they are not punishments, and it is something that they must comply with.
Children are very intelligent and know that following the rules of the house is the best, and they can also be rewarded for their good behavior.
5. Use good humor
We all know that in the different aspects of life, when things are said in a good mood, they have excellent results than if we do it or say it in a negative way.
The same happens with the upbringing of our children, if parents use good humor, everything is learned and corrected. In fact, things are taken more lightly and everything is overcome.
Let’s learn to follow these recommendations and tips to obtain the best results in parenting.