If you are reading this article, then it means that you are open to self-reflection to some extent. If you are curious about this world of emotions and feelings, you are intentionally moving toward emotional maturity.
Characteristics of an emotionally mature man
You have to be willing to move into the unknown, into vulnerability. Instead of avoiding feelings or running from them, commit to welcoming them, feeling them, and working through them.
In this way you can become stronger emotionally. You can be more open and vulnerable.
Emotional maturity can be seen in the following characteristics, which are not always presented in order or may have variations, but which can very well represent a man with emotional maturity.
1. They are humble
Men have a hard time talking about their emotions because they don’t feel comfortable with vulnerability or interpret it as weakness in themselves.
Part of emotional maturity is understanding that vulnerability requires strength. It’s okay to be seen in a moment of fear or frailty. You must be willing to break your ego and feel comfortable being vulnerable.
2. They accept their feelings
Emotionally mature men do not hide or resist or repress their feelings. Instead, they embrace their feelings, which come and go naturally. Emotional discomfort is a great teacher.
Once you have fully experienced the intensity of uncomfortable feelings like grief or sadness, they will naturally subside. Your feelings will not kill you. But running away from them will make your discomfort last even longer.
3. They are willing to tackle tough conversations.
When a man can discuss his feelings openly and in a safe space, he will be able to maintain open communication in romantic relationships. Having vulnerable and emotional conversations is difficult for everyone, but especially for people who are sensitive or inexperienced in the language of emotions.
The way to learn this, as with anything, is to practice. Apply some basic rules: avoid any baseless arguments and always speak respectfully to each other. Setting the intention to have an emotional conversation with these parameters is the first step.
4. They are open to learning and growing
If you choose to stay with your old patterns once you recognize that they are unhealthy, you will continue to experience the same problems. On the other hand, if you see this as a way to become a better person, you will start taking the necessary risks to be more open to your feelings and emotions. This will lead to greater maturity, stronger relationships, and a fuller life.
5. They share without hiding
Emotional maturity means that you can share feelings that make you feel ashamed, that is, bring out hidden feelings that you would rather not mention. It is trusting that the other person will not hurt you and also trusting that you are able to recover if you are hurt.
6. They openly communicate their feelings
Once you accept and welcome your feelings, you may not know what to do with them. This can be somewhat overwhelming. Try writing about them in a journal or discussing your feelings with someone you trust.
If that doesn’t calm you enough to get over these feelings, consider talking to a therapist. Communicating your feelings helps you to be able to name them and deal with them appropriately.
7. They are compassionate and empathic
Emotional maturity means trying to understand another person’s feelings. It means shifting your perspective so that you put conflict resolution above your desire to be right, and not attack her when she expresses emotions that may make you uncomfortable. It is practicing tolerance and patience.