Love has no judgement, no agenda, no prejudice, no intolerance. Love is love without a concrete definition. Let go of boundaries, walls, and inhibitions. It’s effortless. In relationships, love takes work. But it is meant to be a rhythmic dance of ease and grace. Unfortunately, when it’s not an easy dance, the relationship often ends disastrously. It is in those moments that some women ask: “What happened?”
Sometimes it will be the man who leaves, and other times it will be the woman. Other times, it will be a mutual decision. However, the hardest part of a breakup often involves the unanswered questions.
6 reasons why women leave the men they love
If you’re a man concerned about the love of your life, you don’t want to be left asking, “Why?”
they feel alone
A woman needs to feel that she matters.. If your man is not there to support you, there is no reason for her to continue the relationship. Women are caretakers and so when they are in a relationship, they focus their entire being on the man they love. Conversely, men tend to break up quickly when they feel comfortable (even in a relationship).
For a woman dealing with the loneliness of being with someone who is not emotionally present, the noise is deafening. She might wake up one day and realize that she doesn’t deserve that feeling of worthlessness that keeps coming up through the avoidance she feels. When love and attention are not reciprocated, a woman will realize that she doesn’t need to stay in that relationship.
They are not being recognized
There is nothing more painful for a woman than to feel that you are not fully present when she talks. A woman is moved by words. She needs to feel that she is understood, accepted, respected, and supported.
When she is having a conversation with her partner, it is because she needs to feel a connection with him. Women love the simple acts of communication in a relationship; for her, this communication is synonymous with love.
Another way to acknowledge the woman in your life is by acting chivalrous. Taking out the trash, doing laundry, or anything that acknowledges her presence and her needs is exceptional in a relationship. If a woman feels that she is not taken into accountshe will carry on, keeping her wounded heart close to herself.
They don’t feel sexy anymore
Men are sexual creatures. When they want sex, they are ready. A woman, on the other hand, needs intimacy. She may crave foreplay, which can provide the feeling of being completely desired by her man. Routine is the kiss of death. A woman wants spontaneity; she longs for romance.
In many ways, women live in their minds. Therefore, when a man is just being sexually stimulated by websites or other women, or just wants to “come off,” a woman will turn off completely.
There comes a point in a woman’s life when she realizes that if her man doesn’t want her or doesn’t make her feel special (in and out of bed), it’s time to move on.
There is a significant life change
Middle age hits everyone differently. Most women don’t need a new car or fancy clothes. At the same time, they need to know that they are sexy and desired by their men. Menopause begins to creep into the picture, and what was once easily tolerated is no longer.
Life changes. The children go to university; a parent needs full-time care; financial stress is present. Women may experience a life-changing hardship, such as overcoming cancer or some other illness, that serves as a reset button that pushes men out of their lives.
A woman needs to know that she can navigate these life changes with strength and dignity alongside her man. When she doesn’t feel supported, a woman will quickly reorganize her life, and this could include leaving her current relationship behind.
Women don’t like someone predictable.
Men fall into comfortable routines. As they get older, the less they want to be involved in anything that isn’t about them. This is also the reason why some men go through a massive midlife crisis.
Women need serendipitous moments. They need to know that they matter. Even a small note on a coffee cup is enough to bring appreciation to a relationship. Familiarity is not something that sits well in middle age; it feels boring. For a woman, a man is not an accessory. He is a partner. He wants to feel that he is equal to the man in his life.
Her man is not physically there
Women are very tolerant, but having a man who cares more about being away from home is a resounding “no-no!” In today’s world of feminism, a woman doesn’t need a man to take care of her.
She needs a partner who will work alongside her and appreciate her presence. When a man is more interested in spending time anywhere but with her, she lets go. She may take time, but the longer she puts it off, the worse it will be in the end. She knows it’s over when she doesn’t feel any spiritual or intellectual connection.
Women have evolved in our society. The “need” to have a man is outweighed by the “want” to share a life with him. When there is no love, appreciation, contact, spiritual connection, intellectual stimulation, or presence, a woman is likely to choose independence.
Women work just as hard as men. Tolerating a companionship that is not stimulating is no longer on the agenda; it’s a reality check that it’s time to move on.
“Sometimes it takes heartbreak to wake us up and help us see that we are worth so much more than what we are settling for.” ~ Mandy Haley