The challenges of raising a teenager can leave parents feeling powerless and misunderstood by other family members. However, accepting these challenges is the only way to get to the other side.
These years in the midst of parenting teens are a bit like the early years of parenthood. You, once again, feel overwhelmed and incompetent.
Why is it so difficult for parents to raise teenagers?
Teen behavior can be unnerving, stressful, hurtful, and often worrying. But in most cases, it doesn’t mean that something more serious than the natural process of becoming an adult is going on.
Many of the common behavior problems that parents find difficult are an essential part of puberty and growing up.
Hormonal surges, combined with body changes, the struggle to find an identity, pressures from friends, and a growing sense of independence, make adolescence a confusing time for your child.
They baffle, challenge and cause concern
Even the quietest teenagers can defy their parents. When you have more pressures in life, such as other children, work, relationships, family commitments, or illness, you may feel like your teen will push you over the edge.
Try to remove yourself from the situation and remember that your child may have physiological reasons for behaving in ways that may be difficult to live with. They probably aren’t enjoying it either.
You are the adult and you will feel it is your responsibility to guide them through difficult times, but that is not always easy. Don’t expect to enjoy your time with them all the time, and remember to take care of yourself.
Be patient and don’t be discouraged
Parenting during adolescence is the most difficult time to be a parent. There are so many moving parts and so much uncertainty, not to mention the isolation many parents feel during this time.
If you have a child who is struggling right now, keep in mind that it’s not just a parenting issue. While you may need to do some things differently, the challenges your teen faces will require time, patience, and the support of others.
So don’t be afraid to ask for help, keep an eye out for the many positive traits in your child, and most importantly, hang in there. Things will get better.